Well friends, it's been a while since my last post. Settling in at my brothers, looking at houses, trying to figure out my next steps.

As usual, when something hits the fan, I come here for advice, wisdom and support. So, a bit of background:

In mid April, sent back my corrections to the sep. agreement.

May 20, H's L sends a letter with 5 points or demands, you could say. 1 was H wants the credit card debt split 50/50. Some here may recall I did a painstaking, and painFUL, analysis to carefully exclude any of H's post-leaving expenses i.e. those which were not shared, oh say bar & restaurant charges.

On June 10 my L sent a letter to H's L agreeing to all but 2 of their requests, 1 being something about standard language needing to stay in & the other not agreeing to the 50/50.

(thanks to all who weighed in then with their advice on that)!

So yesterday, almost 2 months later, I get an email from my L, with a dreaded attachment. I was very busy at work so I allowed myself not to open til today. Oh boy, here goes:

Basically, it states that H feels the cr. card division is fair, after all he's taking on the home equity line of credit with the house (his choice I might add) and he's not taking half the savings account, which is actually my inheritance from my Mom of which he's well aware.

OK. But here's the kicker. (also the tone is very snippy!) H is "becoming frustrated". "He feels he keeps giving and your client keeps asking for more". Huh??

Then a friendly reminder that a court would split our assets 50/50, less favorable than my cr. card calculation.

Drumroll, and here's the bomb: "We will give her 10 days to change the changes requested or it would just be cheaper to file for divorce". Yes, it's actually worded that way.

Now we are talking about $500 frigging difference! Somehow, someway, H has this idea in his head I am dragging my feet. Truly I am not! I was, last year, but this has me totally scratching my head.

I have been thinking the past 2 months that I think I'm ready to be the initiator, to tell my L, just do whatever you have to do to finish this. Avermont said it best: Death by a 1,000 cuts. That is what this is.

Meanwhile, H has not separated the car or life insurance, & I just got his license sticker renewal in the mail (his car is in my name). So who's dragging their feet here?

Never mind that I let him stay on my health insur. last year (yes we were separated) from June - Nov. b/c he lost his job.

Friends, I am so much more detached than I've been before. I haven't even cried - yet - after getting this email. I am so tired. I am sad, but I feel like I'm ready to end this. I am so very sad, and so tired. And I'm not even that worked up about the cr. card any more.

Sorry - this post is about as long as War & Peace now! Any thoughts, words, smacks? Thanks friends for reading. Thanks for everything you all have given me. Hugs to all (((( ))))

Last edited by LookingFrAnswers; 08/10/10 08:12 PM.