When they do it the way your wife is, there will be a certain wall you can't get over, but maybe her "friends" at work can.
In reality, in marriage it should be the other way around. There is a "wall" that others can't get over, but the spouse has access.
Mine started out the right way and ended up the wrong way. It was plainly visible to anyone who saw us together. My ego-esteem was strong enough to take it, for a while. But several years and thousands and thousands of situation where its clearly obvious that I don't have her, wore me to the nub.
Plus the consistent rejection took my high powered sex drive and trashed it. I'm working on that now, with a female friend. Some are saying you "can't get it back".
I believe I can, I believe its a mental thing from being forced in the repitition of being in a situation where I always get told "no", "wait", "later", etc.
Anyway, my hats off to all the rest of you and best of luck.
