Yeah, for me it's all about respect. She's idolized a college relationship that she lost for years. The first year we were married, I caught her on the phone with this guy, who's married. She said that she's just good friends, "with all her old boyfriends" and it didn't mean anything. Happened again about 2 years later, and I told her I didn't like her talking with him. She said the same crap. Next time it happened, maybe a year or two later, I told her never to contact him again. She sent him a birthday message via FBook this May.
So it's really my fault. I failed to set and enforce boundaries from day one. No wonder she doesn't respect me, and gets so angry when I try to enforce them now.
