My W is slowly slipping back into her non-communicative mode again. I try to joke with her more often and keep conversation flowing, and she usually goes along with it, but I am noticing a little more withdrawl on her part today.
I asked my bro-in-law today why he keeps inviting us over to his house and the fact that my W keeps inviting me to come along. His rationale is that she wants me to be with the kids, and not necessarily her. He is probably correct.
I have been told so many times that seeing a father play with his kids in a carefree and loving way is incredibly attractive. I have been doing that for sooooo long. And the funnier thing is that I have also played with my twin niece girls (2 years old) the same way and the girls are now all over me when I see them. They follow me around and look to play with me. I love it. I play with all 4 kids and my W and her sister hang out in another room and don't really watch me too much. But my sister-in-law always comments at how much her girls love seeing me.
The point is, I have tried this tactic for so long that I am like the ringleader for all the kids. My W still stands on the sidelines, seemingly unaffected.
How do I let go of the rope and still keep things happening in a positive way? How do I keep hope alive (sorry, Jesse!) and still drop the rope?
