Another thing my wife said last night was how angry she was at a boundary I had talked about. The previous night, I said that her relationships with men at work were unprofessional; cooking and sharing food with them; becoming too involved in their personal lives; flirting.
PH, are you sure we're not married to the same W? This is EXACTLY one of my major issues with my W, and no it isn't ending any better for me, she responded basically the same as yours did.
Also, strangly enough I had the same thoughts about not wanting her back the way she is. I do love my W but am In love with the women she used to be and since that women is gone, then so is the M.
It sounds like your really making a lot of progress in the doing what's right department and I will be following to see if our paths continue the same direction.