CTH...the only thing I can tell you is what everyone told me: it gets better, at least to some degree from the start.

I don't think you really accept or get over the loss of time with your children. I think the word is 'adapt' and forced adaptation at that.

I have started my financial rebuild and yep...will take time. When I get an offer on my house that goes to contract, THAT, will hurt. I wish I could afford to buy out her half and stay there. It is not in the cards.

I saw two cancer commercials the other day: one was a little boy throwing a baseball to a dad that wasn't there. There other showed a mom holding her son's hand in a busy station, then, she disappears and the clip shows the boy getting frantic and then crying when she is gone.

Your 'job' now, is to be the most stable and greatest dad in the world....NO MATTER WHAT, and, I can see that you already are.

Stay the course.

FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;