They need time, they need quality guidance from an authority and education... lots of it
If you can't get him to walk that line then why would you WANT him?
i should have seen this coming. it just brings back all those times when he's whined about things. it's really sad.
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He will always choose himself until he learns to share... Does he have siblings?
he has an older sister who has isolated herself from the family. she was engaging in some questionable behaviour and her parents highly disapproved of the people she was associated with. the parents have also been financially supporting her - she could not hold down a job. and they decided to cut her off financially. she removed herself from the family for the last 5 years. she has been on meds for anxiety, depression, pms, you name it. the parents have heard from others what she's been up to and because they are getting old, they are wanting to reconcile by providing financial support again. they found out she was missing car payments and going to the food bank. the father wanted to make her car payments for her.
and the reason why mil is always telling my h that she cannot live without him and that he's all she has .. is because she no longer has a daughter. i think the parents are afraid that if they cut my h off financially, they will lose him too.
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If he calls you in a year, he's all cleaned up, self-managing etc and you want to work with him that's great, but you need to make sure that YEAR COUNTS... don't waste a DAY waiting on him.
YOu don't need to file for divorce to enjoy your life.. go live it... if he jions you that's great, if he won't thats' great too
i've grown a lot over the last few months. i discovered that i was a lot stronger than i thought. i'm wiser. i think i'd make a great partner in crime. i wanted my h to see that.
i almost wanted to file for divorce. i was tired of playing these games. you know, in my separation agreement .. he claimed my engagement ring, jewellery, wedding ring, and a handbag. it was ridiculous. all items given to me before marriage. my l couldn't stop laughing at it.
i was sad to watch him like this. he looked at me and said "i can see the gears turning in your head, you just want to win". and all i can think of was .. no, we're both going to lose. you have no idea, do you?
