It's a fine balancing act, CD, but newbies usually make either the mistake of not seeing ANY of their own role in their marital dysfunction, or, they swing wildly the opposite direction and think they need to change EVERYTHING about themselves -- even those things that are authentically a part of who they are.
I am certainly not in danger of not seeing my own contributions. But I will be susceptible to seeing too many things as "mine"
I found it 'interesting' that yesterday when I mentioned owning my 50% of the M to W, she said "probably not that high" She must be starting to look at it, too.
Not trying to mind read but I found a few things that stood out in the conversation yesterday. I'll try to put them on the thread later so I can "see" them farther down the road.
