The thing is... He hasn't grown up so he doen'st want to hear it...
Children learn this stuff when they are TEN... he's not there yet and telling him to "grow up" isn't going to sink in.
It may make you feel better, but it will drive him further away.
YOu can't tel him to grow up and expect it to happen anymore than telling that to a ten year old...
They need time, they need quality guidance from an authority and education... lots of it
If you can't get him to walk that line then why would you WANT him?
That's the point, you invite him to work with you, you offer him the ticket to the movie and you GO on your own.. if he shows up then great, if he doen'st then you enjoy the movie while he stays at home to hide.
He will always choose himself until he learns to share... Does he have siblings?
I don't recall if you mentioned him having any?
Anyhow... He needs time to grow up.. it takes a LOT of time...
You can watch some great films that show you this...
Kramer vs Kramer is a classic
Beautiful Girls is also one of my favourites
Stepmom again a great film about people of all ages growing up... probably one of the best
You watch this tehn you make yourself available and then move on... no time to wait for the rabbit to catch up... life is a race and right now he's slowing you down...
If he calls you in a year, he's all cleaned up, self-managing etc and you want to work with him that's great, but you need to make sure that YEAR COUNTS... don't waste a DAY waiting on him.
YOu don't need to file for divorce to enjoy your life.. go live it... if he jions you that's great, if he won't thats' great too
