my complicated story

[A_goodman]

Remember LG, the best love is tough love. All this stuff sounds hard, but it is in your best interests to understand that regardless of delivery, we all want you to get the best advice possible to save yourself.

If the paychecks come in your name, into a checking acct with your name on it. Go get your money and take care of your teeth so you can get employment if you need it. She isn't going to do squat. She's breaking the law (you too btw) on many fronts. What's she going to do? Call the cops? One word from you and her sweet deal will evaporate faster than dew in the desert.
As a matter of fact, she cannot take the chance of D-ing you. All her cover is provided by you as her H. She's even laundering her income through your business for tax purposes.

Let her know that you're already at rock bottom and are willing to take her down
with you. Then start driving your own life. You have ALL the power here. Once you realize that, doing what's neccesary to be the man and doing it with calm and control becomes easy.

Get out there and take back your life!