I know that I am in a depression right now (a big one) probably since Feb of last year. I have never felt bad like this for so long. But at the same time I do not want to take meds because I feel that a divorce can lead to depression, so it's natural. Maybe I'll research it though. Does it have any odd effects? I don't want to become dependent to something like that.
Saw L yesterday. There are some things that need to be revised re: H's original petition for D. (Fun fact: the way he filed means I cannot remarry -- interesting, huh?) So there have to be some revisions and L said he can have me D'ed in about 30 days sine we haven't lived together for 11 months and have no kids. The main thing is getting the house issue settled. He said he doesn't foresee any assets coming out of it w/ the recession and advised me to just keep the furniture and sign house/debt over to H. He said he didn't really think I'd get any $/settlement from H. I asked if we could mention the greencard in the D but he said he doesn't handle "immigration law." I wonder if I'd even bring it up in court? Who knows? Does a D judge normally just rule on wahtever each party states in the D papers or does he make his own determinations as well?
The retainer is hefty, IMO. Has anyone here done their own D? I wish H would just pay for all of the D since he is the one wanting it. I do feel like I walk away from this with nothing. He'll have the house, some new work raises, the greencard, the nice cars, etc. and I get to... move back in w/ my parents to save $. Nice.
I want this to be done with fast.
Originally Posted By: CityGirl
And maybe it's not about a regression but more what we need to do to come out of deep pain in a meaningful way. This path you are in now is present for a reason. The reason may be to lead you towards a much different life that may not be what you thought but also may be exactly what you are supposed to have.
