Another thing my wife said last night was how angry she was at a boundary I had talked about. The previous night, I said that her relationships with men at work were unprofessional; cooking and sharing food with them; becoming too involved in their personal lives; flirting. I said that I should have put those boundaries in place the very first time that I noticed her behaviour.
So last night, most of our talk was pretty calm, but when she got to that she became agitated, said "you're telling me who I can have for friends, [censored] you." in tears.
Like I said, it's too late to close that barn door now. These "friends" are her support now, her way of laughing. I told her that she poured so much affection and attention into them instead of our relationship, but when she was doing this, our R was already dead or dying.
