but newbies usually make either the mistake of not seeing ANY of their own role in their marital dysfunction, or, they swing wildly the opposite direction and think they need to change EVERYTHING about themselves -- even those things that are authentically a part of who they are.
Right on Pup.
This is where you are CD.
this is the rest of the journey of the LBS.
You will be tempted to take on more responsibility and that is a natural temptation when you finally open your eyes after the anger.
That is why you look at things that sting.
Pup is right... this is a marathon.
YOUR real work has just begun.
What happened in the exchange with your W is because you are not detached yet...
And you haven't yet begun to see the changes you want to make for yourself
In short you still have much of the old you working here.
They are only mistakes if you don't learn from them.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
