Going straight forward...antlers 6th thread.

[antlers]

when the time comes where you do find yourself exploring the dating world again... and the question is asked... why did your wife leave you?

How will you answer that? And what do you expect their response to be to your answer?

Hi Bridgestone.
When that time comes, especially if I'm just 'dating' someone, I doubt I'd go into much detail. I'd probably say "because sometimes they don't last" and let that suffice.
I can remember when my STBXW asked me that early on in our relationship about a previous relationship I'd had...and I remember saying "because sometimes they don't last"...and sufficed. She didn't ask anymore.
I think the importance of what I've learned matters to me, deeply, and what matters to others is that I am the way that I am...period. Most people aren't interested in the details, and it's not necessary for them to know them.
I don't think that 'reliving' the past with a potential new mate is necessary. It might even come across as still being emotionally invested in it, instead of having 'let it go'.
I know how I got here, what I went through, what I learned, how I changed, etc.. That matters to me. What I've become, what I am...that matters to others.
I will say that it's hard for me to imagine, at this point, caring for another the way I cared for her. Being with someone, and enjoying their company...yeah, I can see that. But caring for another the way I cared for her...I don't see it.