For the record, one more after my wife's affair was confirmed, she was DEEP into it, still DEEP into her "DECEIT" stage (lying to not only me, but to our adult daughters AND her parents about it, despite my ironclad evidence!), and I was meeting with an attorney to initiate a petition for divorce.
It was only after actually FILING for divorce, and having a major RE-CONFRONTATION with her about the deceit (with more evidence in tow), and two additional months (3 total) that she asked back into the marriage.
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Timing is everything. Having the boundary at the right time is crucial. Prior to that it will push her furthur away.
DISAGREE.
Boundaries have no more to do with "pushing away" than do with trying to attract -- they are done for YOU, irrespective of how the cheating/walkaway/MLC spouse will likely react to them. In general, however, boundaries are best laid out EARLY, for your own preservation and integrity.
