My midwife doesn't know, my girls have been with me at my appts, and I'm not comfortable mentioning it in front of them. He knows he can't really file till the baby is born but he's going to the lawyer and filling out the paperwork anyway. Adding more stress to me and the baby.
This morning he texts me asking for my SS# and info, I told him to look it up in the tax returns he has b/c I'm not helping him fill out the paperwork.He threw hsi tantrum. He said "you don't know what hell is but now you will"
He's planning on a custody battle and "more" to screw me over he said.
He said he gave and gave and never received,and all I was good for was cooking and sex b/c making love has been out the window for 8 yrs already. I did EVERYTHING in our house, and EVERYTHING for him so how dare he?!
He's spewing away via texts b/c I won't help him with my info for divorce papers. Too damn bad. This hasn't been easy on me, my kids, or the baby, so I'm not making it easy for him.
Either way he's filing, so why make it easy?
Our little one is sick, her stomach has been acting up since she asked him to move closer on Sunday, and he gave her his famous line. He texts me again asking for their SS#'s. When I say I'm bz, he starts saying "maybe your getting busy" ??? Ummm I'm dealing with a sick 7 yr old.
I told him I'm dealing with DD7 and you're not my priority anymore, so no I will not be answering your msgs. He said sorry tell her i'll call her later I hope she feels better and I love all 3 of them. That you do well (mothering)
I told him I don't need his approval.
I'm not fishing for his 1/2 assed compliments. Basically 5 mins earlier he said I'm a good prostituting chef and that's all I've been worth to him for our entire marriage..... We've been married 8 yrs, together 14. Now he wants to pay me a fake compliment? I KNOW I'm a good mom, my girls have had A+ grades since day one of school b/c I set them up for success not him.
He knows since I moved to this new town I'm not working, this was his damn idea b/c the kids were suffering being in school then a sitter for 12 hours a day. He said ok, quit your job, move (2 hours away) to where their dream school is, and hopefully by summer I'll be up there. NOW he says he never said the summer thing and that DD9 and I are liars.
Since he knows I have basically no money, NOW that I haven't been working for 5 months, he's filing, b/c I can't possibly afford an attorney. Now I'm screwed. Makes me want to pack up my kids and leave to a state that's 20 hrs away to live with family and get on my own 2 feet down there. If my kids weren't so in love with him I'd do it. How dare he now want to fight for custody?! They weren't important enough for him to fix the damn marriage!
Now he's texting me with very nasty language telling me how much he HATES me. Told you this is too far gone for any DBing.
He told me he plans on leaving for good in jan after his bday. Never to be seen again by anyone he knows, inc his family, our kids, his mother. He says he's just going to disappear.
Yet he loves his kids. Nice way of showing it. I don't know what to do anymore.
Last edited by 2gthrButApart; 08/10/1001:59 PM.
M:28 H:30 DD-9| DD-7| Baby- Due 11/10 T-14 | M-8
10/08- Bomb 4/09- Failed attempt at Marriage Fitness Program 3/10- WH moved out. 7/10- Informed me he's filing in Aug
