Readers here may benefit from at least the four being listed.
If you have print outs of the four horsemen such as a single page or whatnot PRINT it OUT and when you sit down to talk you put that in front of you both and you STOP him as soon as he veers into one... YOu point at the sheet and offending item there and say
NO...
And you wait for him to back up... Or walk away.. He will do one or the other...
I am not big on expecting a WS to remember anything that isn't right in front of them and POINTED AT...
It's insulting to have to treat your spouse like a child I know, but it will work a lot better than hoping he remembers something that will incriminate him...
That's like asking a burglar to watch your house for you while you are on vacation...
