It's one of my "habits" to expect too much of myself. Yes, textbook NMMNG. I know. I was kidding myself thinking I would be able to pull off an Alen or Gucci or Puppy only a month after the A was confirmed.
CD,
For the record, one more after my wife's affair was confirmed, she was DEEP into it, still DEEP into her "DECEIT" stage (lying to not only me, but to our adult daughters AND her parents about it, despite my ironclad evidence!), and I was meeting with an attorney to initiate a petition for divorce.
It was only after actually FILING for divorce, and having a major RE-CONFRONTATION with her about the deceit (with more evidence in tow), and two additional months (3 total) that she asked back into the marriage.
