I do have some of the facebook stuff. None of it is incriminating, but does show the trolling. I have the text message still on my phone that he sent. (The one that was meant for the old gf.)
He has stopped the financial talk with me as I think he knows I'm not playing that game anymore. Now it's just to the kids, it seems, that he is using it. Doesn't mean it won't come up again though (with me) so it's good to have a plan of action!
That's the thing: on the weekend retreat we discussed the 4 horsemen in detail and the barriers to communication. He specifically saw how blaming me was a horseman and I can call him on it!
Of course, he also heard several times over about the history rewrite and he still doesn't seem to make the connection that he's doing that. SO.. why should I expect that he will remember the 4 horsemen too?!
You would've really liked that weekend seminar, btw, Allen. With all your knowledge, etc... there was a lot of information that was dead on and even more in depth as to the whys/hows of everything you discuss! I would love to share more of it here, on the forum, when I have a bit more time. Maybe after getting D off to college this coming week. The only thing I took issue with the whole weekend is it seems they endorse the "being friends" aspect more than I like. I'm trying to find a little more about that. I think being friends with someone who's doing you wrong is just counter to self-respect, personally. They see it as a draw back to you because that's one of the aspects of attraction. However, it's not an area we talked about in depth so maybe they aren't saying something counter to what I feel and I was a bit sensitive to it because of already having that discussion here on the boards.
