imLin is absolutely right. It would stop being a communacative, helpful forum and become a Jerry Springer episode. I don't believe an MLC'r can tell you what they feel or are going through because they don't know, and what they do know is false, for the most part.
As I've imparted, my husband and I first went through this 8 years ago. When he left in March, he said something that has stuck in my brain and heart, and cuts me very deeply. He said "You're not doing to me what you did before . . . " What did I do? Stand for the marriage? Wait it out. Be there for him when he crashed, and then wait faithfully for 18 months while he was deployed overseas?
IF my husband and I come through this intact - big IF at this point- the one thing I want him to explain to me is that comment.
Having those bad dreams again. Wake up reaching for my husband across the bed. Wish those would stop.
