There was an OW that (in the beginning) he denied. My bomb date is the date that I accused him of having an affair----not the same bomb as most people list. It was a year and a half after my bomb date that I heard "I don't love you anymore." During that time, I blamed myself for the state of our marriage----because I was convinced that the reason for the deterioration and our inability to get back on track was my accusation. Six months later he moved out. I searched for answers and learned that I was right about OW all along. Is she still in the picture???? I don't think I care any more.....I do know that I can't believe what he has told me about her and how long their relationship lasted.....I do beleive she was/is a symptom....not part of his "cure"...I don't think she was THE answer he was looking for. Has he took any action on the divorce? Not that he has informed my L about----but I do believe that it is only time. I can't let myself think anything else.
I will continue to live as I have been living.....moving forward and working on me, for me and my family. I love from a distance. I have left openings that only seem to make him act more awkwardly. I am making progress with detachment.....but the love is still there. The feeling of how wrong this is is still there. I've accepted where I'm at. I am no longer looking for answers. I no longer try to analyze his every move or what his action or inaction means. I'm going to be the best person I can be---the best mom I can be.....and just live.
Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12
