While yoru family and friends are pressuring him and the workplace is pressuring him YOU are working on making YORUSELF more inviting to return to my getting a life.
This is much like parenting... being a parent doens't mean being a doormat...
Parents have to be an attractive option.. kids will run away if it gets bad... and for them to want to return home the home has to be inviting... but parents won't agree to be doormats and allow their kids to walk all over them.. if they return home there are RULES ... or BOUNDARIES if you will.. and when your H agrees to respect them properly then he can return...
He will RESPECT you for fighting for the marriage and him... even when he's LIVID that you are making his lifestyle miserble... it is a pratical combination that parents employ daily
THey are tough, but inviting at the same time... its doable.. Hard but do able
AT a deep level you have to trust that he loves his marriage and his kids and will return if you show him you mean business...
If you ALLOW him to cheat, he will... It's just like working with a child.. if you allow them to take advantage they WILL
So STOP allowing it by speaking up and asserting the boundaries...
OUT until he can walk the straight and narrow... And you make the life outside of the home a living nightmare for him.. HR, management, friends, family all pressing him to be a man and go home... most will end it
