I'm new and need advice

[lovehurts]

I'm not sure I'm ready for the hardball approach but I can start gathering my team. So far it's only been MY friends or people that he has little communication with. I don't know her friends but certainly we have mutual friends on the job.

I actually know his HR manager because it's what I do and we play in the same sandbox. I don't think they have a non-fraternizing rule because this sort of thing is somewhat common place there. I've thought about calling his boss, their boss, and asking him to not put them on projects together. One caveat that shouldn't matter was the day the bomb was dropped, he said, "please don't do anything to f^@k up my job". He's been there for 19 years and is highly respected and has a job most people only dream of. Travel, high profile events, rubbing elbows with famous people in the music industry, etc.

I've thought about calling his ex and asking for her support. I know she would be devastated to think of putting her sons through this. She knows how much I love them and how much they love me.

I'm heeding this advice and really contemplating my game strategy. I'll keep you posted.