I'm new and need advice

[lovehurts]

I played this scenario out in my mind as well. Last week when I picked up our son from his internship (with her) I played out in my mind that I would quietly go in her office and say "I'm not here to cause a scene but I need answers. I'm faced with a decision and before I make that decision I need all of the pieces of the puzzle in front of me. I need to gather facts. Do you have any intentions of stepping away from my husband?" I figured her answer would help me make a better decision. I didn't do any of that. I asked her to look after him and make sure he knew where the lunch room was. I let her know he loved the project he's working on. OMG! I'm a doormat.

I have an opportunity to go back in on Wed morning when I drop our son off - H will be in the office that afternoon - I could easily go up there and demand she stay away. That would also be a good time to involve the other coworker and ask her for support in making him see what a mistake he's making. This still scares me and feels counterDB.