1. Infidelity isn't something he can just stop doing, its an addiction. 2. He isn't going to be honest with you 3. He isn't gonig to be forthright with you 4. He isn't going to be intimate with you (he might, but I doubt it) 5. He isn't giong to cooperate with you 6. He is hooked on an excitement right now - a romantic/sexual fantasy and his one and only motivation right now is to pursue that further
1. Reasoning with him won't help 2. Arguing with him won't help 3. Telling him to go won't help 4. Pleading with him to stay won't help 5. Asking him to stay won' help
What does work?
a. Firmness rather than enablement b. Simple concise points of fact thrown at him and then exit c. Friends and family all pressuring him to the same end - end the affair d. Isolation from everyone and everything else
