Thanks to everyone for the advice. I don't know when I'll be able to go home now as the dates originally planned no longer work, i'll try to find something in a few weeks.
We haven't spoken in two days now and I'm not planning on calling him or answering his calls. The second to last time we spoke he got upset after he asked if I'd heard about any of the jobs I've applied to (I've been applying in different parts of the country) and I told him I heard from a place in our town. He asked why I would consider doing that, that it was a step backward and that our marriage was over and he wants out. Asked why I can't just let him go? Then somehow the conversation turned to the OW and he said "well she hasn't been here" (she lives in another state) and I said "How would I know?' or something to that effect. He was furious and said "you don't believe me!" and I said "No I believe you , but there's no way I could know" and he continued with"no you don't believe me". By the end of the phone call my head was spinning and I was wondering what happened?
Oh and somewhere along he said that he wants ME to file for D!!
