Last time we talked about her he said she is the only good thing in his life right now and he can't give that up. When I said that WE cannot work on our connection while he is still connected to HER, he replied that he doesn't think she is the issue. He thinks we had problems long before her and he doesn't think that removing her will fix anything.
Maybe it won't for him, but she is my main problem. We still are not talking about any of this - and I think I'm waiting for him to approach me about it rather than being the one to bring it up. It just sucks that I'm in this new house in a new town, I have no friends here and the only adult contact I do have is him. The idea of us moving him out (I'd have to physically help him move the stuff since neither of us has any other friends here) sucks, but so does the situation. I guess I can't do anything but hold tight until he bring up the R? Or am I supposed to give him an ultimatum about cutting off contact or moving out? (Even though we are in a holding pattern and not talking about things currently.)
Me 32 H 32 Ds 3.5 and 1.5 M 5 years, T 14 years EA/Bomb: 7/1/10 PA revealed: 9/14/10 Legally separated: 10/01/10
