Sandi - sorry I didn't address the passwords thing, but it did come up in MC.
Actually, the MC brought it up, not me. Her exact words were, "in a case like this where there has been an A, the only way to begin the recovery process is complete transpareny."
I almost fell out of my chair, I said "That's what I've been saying all along!" My W just seemed stunned.
I think the first question that needs to be answered by her is the "want to want to try". That would get the ball moving on the rest of this.
At this time, even though I don't have transparency, I feel confident there is NC with OM. She hasn't done anything for a month as far as I can tell, when I had transparency. She actually has showed me in the past few days a txt msg from another guy that might have upset me, but it was nothing.
Tonight has been good. As soon as I put S4 to bed, I told her I was going to read in the room. She was watching a show as I left. Not 5 minutes goes by and she comes into the room and decides she is going to read too. I told her that I was in here reading to give both of us space, and that was my intention. She said she didn't need it.
After she finished reading she said she was going to nap. I told her it wasn't a good idea to nap at 8:30 at night, that she would be up late, and that was a bad choice for our child tomorrow. She whined and eventually laughed and then stayed in bed but awake. She asked if I wanted to play cards, and I said sure. She asked me to tell her when I was finished with my chapter.
Played cards, finished our game. Went inside. Looked at the DVR, nothing on it. I told her I was going to read, she looked up at me from the couch at me and I said, "What?" She pucked her lips up for a kiss. I gave her one. Maybe that was a mistake.
She's got a decision to make in the next few days. We'll see.
And I'm reading Hold on to Your N.U.T.S right now, it's good. More on that later.
----"Et tu, Brute?"---- me:28 W:24 S4 T:6 M:4 EA Exposed: 5/21/10 Bomb: 6/20/10 (Father's Day) NC w/ OM: 7/10/10 W moved out 8/21/10 http://bit.ly/aOrZne - My sitch