And so it goes

[cat04]

Taylor,

I am going to post because you asked me to, but I can guarantee you up front, you are not going to like what it is that I have to say.

First, congratulations that your H has decided to work on the M.

You need to be very careful. I agree with the others, I am very skeptical. But I am skeptical of you more than your H.

You said you couldn't be happy, GAL, blah, blah, blah, because your M was in shambles.

Well, now it seems to maybe be heading in a better direction, you have found other things to complain and worry about. Who your real friends are, what the MC thinks, that this is not happening as fast as you want it to.

You have actually done some stuff for you, highlights, happy emails with family, new clothes.

Tell me why you didn't do those things before, when your H was not wanting you? Those are things you should have been doing, to help you feel better.

You came here looking for the quick fix. You are still looking for ways to move this forward for your H. (ie, CONTROL) You got lucky. He responded to the LRT, in the way you wanted. (ie, ULTIMATUM and CONTROL)



What would you really have done if the answer had been different because it still could be you know?

Would you have been angry and bitter? I am gonna guess yes. I don't believe that you really would have been ok with the other option. Maybe you would have lived with it, but I don't think you would have been ok.

Honey, 9 months, is like a day in the life around here. Nine months is nothing.

If you can't get your life together for you, whether you are with your H or someone else, you are always going to be making yourself happy, based on the fact that you have someone that you think wants you. When it is all said and done...

Are you really going to want you?

The talk about alone and lonliness, if you don't want to be with yourself, who is really going to want to be with you?

I see lots of room for a ton of self growth here.

Good luck with your future IT. I hope it turns out as you would like.