Relocated the family and he dropped the bomb

[john28]

You're not going to get anywhere until he stops contacting the OW. You need to set clear boundaries here. Either he stops it, or he moves out immidiately. You should phrase it like this:

I have decided that I will not share my husband in this house with another woman, be it emotionally, physically, or otherwise. You have clearly crossed the line with OW. This is damaging our relationship, and our children. At this time, for the sake of our marriage, I am asking you to stop all contact with OW. If you will not, you need to move out immidiately.

And wait for your answer.

Then if he decides NC, you can begin DB.