I am sorry I hurt you now. I am sorry for a lot of things I've said and done in our marriage. I accept my complete 50% responsibility for the state of our marriage.
Did you ever tell her this before? If you did, you don't need to repeat it again. (At least not until she shows up at the playing field to reconcile - when she owns hers, you can repeat you owning yours)
If you look at what you wrote about after the meeting - be honest about what your intention was to have that conversation. I mean brutally honest.
Originally Posted By: CD Bear
But what you must know is that if you end the affair, you can knock on the door and I'd be willing to discuss it further"
Ok this is really weak. You lost some respect for this one. How about, 'You crossed a boundary when you started your affair. I'm not interested in having an open marriage..and to be perfectly blunt I'm not really sure how I feel about a married woman having an affair except I think it's disgusting.'
I wouldn't even bring the old - well, if things change let me know - stance. I mean think about it. If you were in a R with a woman who you are leaving, she says to you, "Big CD Bear, if you ever change you're mind just call me up." How do you feel about this person? Now lets say you're cheating on this woman and she says the same thing to you...how does that sound to you? Like a strong woman or a desperate woman?
CD, bottom line is it went the way it was supposed to go. No one can tell you what was and wasn't planted or fruitful in the meeting. I'm just pointing out some things.
Don't apologize for 'making' her cry. You can't 'make' her cry.
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