X came over. She called. I never answer. VM says she's out and nearby and wants to come over and spend some time getting some of her things from the basement. She pulls up about 2 minutes later, if that, with surgically-attached teacup dog with her, of course. The divorce says she simply has to "notify" me when she does so: no more, no less. But two-minute advance notice? I may have to set a boundary on that. That's pretty much barging in in my book.
Done.
Originally Posted By: Gardener
E-mail: Our Divorce/Separation Agreement stipulates only that, "If X seeks to go to the home, she will contact Gardener first."
Despite that, I will tell you that I feel disrespected, taken advantage of, and barged in upon when you "notify" me within two minutes or so of your arrival as you did yesterday. While your "notification" fulfills the letter of the Divorce Agreement, I believe it violates the spirit of it.
While I appreciate your prompt return of my belongings, I feel the same way about your totally unannounced/no notification appearance at my home this evening.
In the future I will expect to be "notified" at least one hour prior to your seeking "to go to the home..."
An unanswered, un-replied-to voicemail message will not suffice in honoring my one-hour notification expectation.
If you choose not to honor this reasonable expectation, I will lock both un-keyed mudroom and garage doors.
If you choose to continue to not honor this reasonable expectation, I will take the matter up with counsel.
I would never presume it to be acceptable to show up at your (residence) Street residence unannounced or with minimal notification. Indeed, you have on several occasions adamantly declined my offers to do so to save postal time in delivering you paperwork, etc.
Thank you.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
