I know it sounds hard hearted, but it does not show 100% commitment... but I strongly suspect you started this after you were questioning his commitment which was also not 100%
i grew up with a father who wasn't responsible with money. i remember a time when he only had $15 in the bank. the fear in us left a lasting scar. i vowed never to put myself in that position. so i always kept a healthy reserve in the bank.
technically, it wasn't a "waw" fund. i didn't think he'd ever leave me. however, my fund was for emergency expenses. i actually saved that money to build a wine cellar in our home. it was my h's hobby. and i wanted to surprise him. that's what that money was for.
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Did you ever leave him to think he wans't welcome to it?
well, once he had to make a yearly contribution to his 401k. he didn't have the money and he asked me for the money. i said no. i said you had a year to put money aside for this but you didn't. why should i bail you out for something you knew you had to save for, and didn't?
he dipped into his line of credit and then told me to pay for the interest because i had the money and didn't lend it to him. i made him incur interest charges so i was responsible for paying it.
