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You grow stronger for dbing even if your spouse doens't come home.. if you do dbing well and make teh most of your time away from him.. If you sit in your home and pine away then you arne't any better than he is

and i do not sit at home.
i've actually done a lot of work on myself - my long thread is in separated. because we are physically separated.
we are renting different units in the same building. and we play at the same squash club. but h hasn't shown up in about a month. i've been looking for intel on an OW but no evidence. but he's home every night and just stays in his apartment. he put on about 30 lbs recently due to improper eating. when i was his w, i would control is his intake of his mother's baked goods. now .. who knows.

as for me, i'm in great shape. smile women ask me all the time how i stay in shape - who doesn't want a body like jennifer aniston? smile i look and feel good. squash has done wonders for my self-esteem. i took other special interest courses and will be taking a leadership course in the fall. i also purchased a nice home. it was a smart buy, imo.

i live away from my parents too and my mom calls once a day to make sure i'm okay. a few months ago, i was so depressed. but forrest gump challenged me to take care of myself. i want to be the best person i can be. i also want to lead by example. i can be independent and have a great relationship with my family at the same time. i look great, feel great, and i get asked out a lot.

this is where i am at. my l recently asked me to talk to my h about our separation agreement. and this is my opportunity to see if h is still thinking with emotion, or if we can work something out. my l knows i want to reconcile.

so some vets are trying to help me figure out how to talk with compassion and not anger. i'm very grateful for those who have helped me. i am the fun person i was before. i don't need my h. but i want my h.