Just think about the idea of thought police

You dont want to go that far

a. Your husband can think negative
b. Your husabnd can feel negative
c. Your husband can share negative thoughts or feelings within the family
d. Your husband can act negative within the family

Clearly a and b are his and don't bother touching them, but c and d you call him on...

And ya, according to MWD if you set boundaries on c and d then those boundaries will slip into a and b eventually anyways... He just doens't know that part lol