As for the 6 month+ deal, that's not good news, lol. I don't want to have to deal with him this way for another 6 months or more, that's for sure. UGH. But, I get your point about being patient and not expecting overnight change. However, it DOES have to be healthy for him to be here in the house, and not constantly stress-inducing for me and the kids.
I don't think at this point I do most things to garner a reaction from H. Most of my changes and GAL have been for me and my kids. Occasionally I'll make myself do something just to make sure I'm on top of my game with H, but I feel I'm being pretty authentic. It's hard not to notice the reactions though, whether good or bad. It's a good warning though and reminder - to not get caught up with trying to mind read!
