Yep, and your H saw his father behave and he does the same thing pretty much...lets her control him by crying...
THe point of dbing isnt just to get your spouse back.. It's for you to win yourself back... To find the person that got lost somewhere in teh marriage...
That's the great part, even if your sopuse doens't come home, you still win... YOu are a full person while your spouse has a mountain of baggage, no marriage education, and hides cowardly in a home elsewhere...
You grow stronger for dbing even if your spouse doens't come home.. if you do dbing well and make teh most of your time away from him.. If you sit in your home and pine away then you arne't any better than he is
The point of dbing is to win yourself back, and that in many cases draws your spouse back too...
Either way you win. Go find the life you lost and enjoy yourself... If he comes back then he has work to do... If he doens't.. Then you can do better.
