We've spent our first weekend post-letting go. W is friendlier, more easy going, etc. But what do I do? Withdraw?
I feel like I have said all the right things, but I am still living in "hope." I am still there all the time for her and the kids. She tells me that we are invited to her parents' house and I go. She tells me today that we were invited to her sister's house for a pizza dinner and I accept.
Do I go and try as someone said be the most powerful magnet that I can be to combat her depression? Or do I back off and show her that when I said I am letting go, I REALLY AM letting go and start distancing myself from her.
Next week we are going away for the day to take our kids to an amusement part two states away. We took our boys to a carousel this weekend and had a great time.
When I took my kids on our regular Sat. morning walk through town I invited my W to shower and then come catch up with us. She said, "We'll see." She texted me later and asked where we were. I said, "We are X, why don't you come down and meet us at the fountains?" She said OK and came and we all continued our walk together as a family.
I still LOVE being with my W and doing things as a family. It's hard to pull myself away from that. But I am thinking about whether or not that is helping me or just making me look like a pushover so that she can still call all the shots.
