well i just text her and told her that if she is unwilling to cut off all contact with him that I was going to cut off all ties to her. She responded asking that if she don't cut off all ties to him then am I going to file for the divorce. Don't know how to respond as I don't want to divorce.

Also a couple times it's been noted that I did his job for him. I didn't do his job, I did her job while she did his job.