Sunny, the hard facts are that if your Husband is wayward its going to be up and down for likley six or more months... Don't expect to see any improvement for six months... The improvement in him will be internal at first and will manifest itself slowly from a six month point onwards... you may see effort earlier in spurts, but it will be short lived...
This is the point of the "ignore 100% of what they say and 50% ofwhat they do" guideline... If you get too focussed on thier reaction then you will be allowing THEIR responses drive your actions... you don't want in that cycle its death in slow motion
BREAK the cycle by just doing what you should be doing with blinders on to him unless he breaks a boundary...
It's ok to watch him and such, but don't let it get to a point where it will impact your motivation or you are dead in teh water...
Your choices are NOT dictated at ALL by his actions... Just do it...
Monitor for boundaries alogn teh way, but as long as he's not veering froun the boundaries then give him time to process
