Surviving the Big D STINKS!

[Gardener]

Mr. A is probably depressed.
Mr. A. has no external boundaries (TMI re: OW)
Mr. A made poor life choices.
Mr. A treated you cruelly.
Mr. A is unemployed, living with his parents (!)
Mr. A is assuaging guilt: "he never meant to hurt me. F* that!" F* that indeed: what he meant is meaning less; what he did and caused is all that matters.
Mr. A wants to further assuage guilt by getting you to share the blame ("He wanted me to agree with him that we were both unhappy when he left." Answer? "Even if that's true, I didn't abandon and betray!")
All Mr. A has is his thoughts (Aawwww, poor Victim A. I mean, Mr. A.) Man Up or stew in it.
Mr. A is trying to drink less? Yoda: "There is no 'try', there is only 'do,' says Gardener, who walked away from self-medicating on 2/06/06.
Mr. A "checked out"? ("It's called limbo.") Sorry, in his case it's called "wallowing victim."

Mrs. A., my friend, you need - and coincidentaly, Mr. A would probably benefit and ultimately grow from - NO CONTACT!

"How's your love life," indeed.

Peace, from someone who may backslide, may get weepy, may lose perspective at times, but who thinks there are too many d@mned guys in this world and not enough men.

(and from someone whose getting off his soapbox, now )