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[john28]

pussy foot around the issue

I'm not, Steve. I agree that they are not communicating in a healty way. She invalidates him, he invalidates her, she is highly structured and so the battles happen when he strayes into any territory where she has to have control.

It's the communication that is the elephant. I agree with that much.

I'll agree. I went home for lunch today and I told her I had a great story to tell her. I told her the '65 Mustang story that Coach said, putting me in as the owner of the car, and her "doing something nice" for me by washing it. At the end when I finished, she said:

W: You'd be really mad at me if I did that to a car like that! (laughing)
M: And that is what happened last night with the pot and spoon.
W: I completely forgot about that last night, didn't even think anything of it.
M: I see. Well, I didn't because it upset me and I thought about it alot today. But I know now how you felt last night, and I didn't understand it then. Now, I see that we were both right. I wasn't just right, but you were too.
W: Yeah, I'll try to be more considerate next time.
M: And I'll not get angry when you're just trying to do it correctly.

End of discussion. Now that is good communication.