Warrior..long time since I've heard from you..thanks for checking up on me.

I, too, believe that not everyone is capable of getting thru this thing in one piece. The MLC, I mean. It takes an ornery SOB to stick this beast out and win!!! It would be just my luck to give up, find someone else and then have to go thru it with them!! Story of my life..haha. But I jest, because I am not going to give up. I almost have a couple of times, tho. And just recently even. I didn't post it (or maybe I did..losing my mind) but on July 24th we sat down and divided everything up. I had told him the night before that this just wasn't working for me and that he didn't seem to be trying at all and I couldn't handle it anymore. I really was ready to be done. So, he said we should just divorce then. Well, after seeing it all down on paper, he changed his mind and has been trying. So, not sure what that says..but I guess we'll see. It's not intolerable by any means. He is cordial and we do things together; we watch movies, have a glass of wine on the deck, laugh, we talk about all the stuff under the sun, he kisses me goodnight, etc. Not sure if he will be able to get the emotional and physical intimacy back or not. But I owe it to us to let him try. What else do I have to do anyway..haha. So, I'm just doing my thing. Exercising, working out in the yard, looking for a job, doing stuff with my kids, reading my fiction, keeping up my home..all the normal things a normal person does. Even tho we're not normal..yet.

Lance..I think a MC that is skilled in behavior techniques and why people do the things they do, can help a person in MLC. At the very least they can help the LBS understand what is happening and how they can move forward. Sort of like all you guys help..only face to face. Sometimes I can be really obtuse, so it helps to have it spelled out to me face to face. I think the reason is that I tend to think that everyone thinks like I do..so when I try to reason it out in my mind, I reason it out in a way that makes sense to me because that is what I would say, do, think..etc. But at this late stage in life, I have come to realize that no one thinks like me cuz we're all unique. Duh. Why I didn't deduce that many years ago, I'll never know. Like Michelle W-D says, if what you're doing isn't working, try something different..so we are.