Have any of you guys noticed that there are several people who you thought were your really good friends, aren't really? The reason I say this is because I have briefly explained some of what is happening with my marriage and most of them have not even bothered to call and see how I'm doing. I think that's weird.
I have a small support group..my bro, my BFF and another really close girlfriend who I talk to at least a couple of times a week, if not daily and they actually call me to see how I'm doing. The other friends that I'm speaking of, know that I'm going thru a really rough time as a result of conversations we've had while exchanging Xmas greetings, etc..and haven't heard from them since. Maybe they don't feel comfortable asking about it. I just know that if they were going thru this, I would be calling to show my support. But I guess we're all different.
Hi Taylor, How are you doing? I can see by your posts that your in a place you want to be but don't want to be. You are glad that you are both seeing a C but are frustrated with the process. About the friends thing, you will know who your true friends are through this. The friends that don't want to know how you are doing are either scared or don't want to get involved. You will know who they are. The ones that don't want to get involved have no clue what this is all about. Realize that this is heavy sh!t for most. I never knew how this could be such a nightmare. I really believe not many could handle this going on in their life. It takes special people to see this for what it is and then live their life to work at some kind of a sanity for themselves. I know about free will from God but it just seems like this is a test put in front of us to be better. Not that we were not very good before, but gee, could we not have at least had a "heads up" first. Guess it would not matter anyway because this was going to happen no matter what. I can see that now and it doesn't make it any easier but it does make more sense on something that did not make any sense at bomb. That my friend, is a good thing! It verifies it is the MLC'r not us. We get this opportunity to look at ourselves and face our demons too. Forget about it not being fair. I could list a million things that are not fair in a sinful world. We get this on our plate for now. The LBS's that report back say it was the best thing for them. That is a tough pill to swallow. We will get through this and we are going to be better in the end. My W and I have separate sessions with IC. It works better for us because he helps her face her demons. With me present, all it does is help her put her mask on and spew. The lies that come out do not help at all but the C knows this and just lets W vent. I don't get to vent. Never get to vent. Probably will not get to vent. I don't know what to recommend to you and would be a little hesitant to do that. But feel free to ask me anything I will do my best to help you.
