Your story isn't at all surprising. Do you know 99% of affair couples that run off together to try to live happily ever efter end up in a huge ugly mess like yours above? You know most affair couples that run off together one of them ends up cheating on the other AGAIN? It's a pattern and changing isnt' the issue, its maturity.
Wrong? That's not the word for it... You allowed a man to abandon his wife and children... you were the homewrecker there... And Your currnt H ruined your marriage too... You both have histories as homewreckers... You can't expect the home you two try to build is going to result in anything other than another broken home... 99% of the time this IS what happens...
This isnt' about wrong, or karma.. its just facts. Individual Therapy? You two BOTH need FAMILY THERAPY not invididual therapy.. YOu two need to understand what being a COUPLE means... and what respecting OTHER peole trying to be a COUPLE means.
I am not trying to beat you up here, I want to wake you up... Do you think you two can build a home together with this kind of history without a LOT of hassles?
Of course your husabnd is defending his xwife... She bore his children.. you attack that poor woman that HE ABANDONED for YOU and he will go after you... guaranteed...
Do you understand how delicate this situation is and how much maturity it will take to pull it off?
it CAN be done but I really dont' think you understand that your history follows you for the rest of your life...
Feeling bad isn't the issue here... You need to realize you two have a huge monkey on your backs for the rest of your lives... THAT you need to deal with in FAMILY therapy, not with a shrink in private but as a couple
