She just gets panicked about our daughters, and needs to cope with it. I understand the panic, and looking back, I shouldn't have ignored her voicemails. That was immature.
I'm sorry to disagree here, but I think if she wants a divorce, she has to get used to you not responding to most (if any) of her calls except to arrange drop-offs and pickups and things like that.
She was panicked because she was losing control of the situation. Same way you felt when you figured out you cannot control her.
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And it explains so much of our relationship; why I pulled away. The more love and attention I gave her, the more threatened she felt, and she pulled away, diverting her attention to our daughters. And as I was neglected, I pulled away, in a self-fulfilling prophecy reinforcing her lack of worth. Really sick, and so sad. She said she really loved me when we married, but couldn't love anyone right now.
Feeling dramatic?
Here's another way of explaining the same thing:
As your marriage matured and you had kids, you two forgot how to do the romance dance, and you two stopped dating each other... pretty much all of the time. You were stuck in a rut.
Relax, that stuff happens.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
