2,

God doesn't interfere with his gift to man of free will. The choices your H makes may not be the right ones, but they're his choices.

You're right as adults we find a way to deal with the pain. As the sane adult it's our job to help our children find a way to deal with it as well.

Keep being the great mom that you are. You'll all get through this and be better than OK no matter which way it turns out.

Sorry for the hijack Punkin.