God, let's hope that it isn't as ridiculous as Faberware
I would hope it was at least All-Clad or Calphalon if anybody is getting bent
Just kidding: stuff is stuff.
Here's the argument I see:
He feels unappreciated, and she feels like he doesn't care about her concerns (e.g. scratching cookware).
The cookware, as ridiculous as it is to fight over, is where the battle was fought because it brought up those bigger issues that they aren't dealing with properly.
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The cookware, as ridiculous as it is to fight over, is where the battle was fought because it brought up those bigger issues that they aren't dealing with properly.
Obviously, it isn't just about cookware, people. But - it is very indicative of the type of things that she belittles me about daily.
It could have been anything. I'm washing the counter wrong. I'm sweeping wrong. I'm watering the plants incorrectly. It doesn't matter - it's always something that she feels she is BETTER at than I am (and, she is) but she decides that instead of just letting me fail or do it my way, she must interject and either complain about the way I do it, or push me out of the way so she can do it. I'm tired of that.
There are some things I don't try to help with, because they bug her so much. One such thing is laundry. Apparently I don't fold it exactly right. So, I only hang things on hangers while she folds. That's one compromise we've come to, and it works.
But last night I felt like I took a stand, and showed the MAN side of me rather than saying, "Sorry honey, I know you told me not to use that spoon. I'm so sorry. You're right, yada yada." I never told her that she was wrong. I just told her I didn't like how she handled the situation and took over belittling me. I think even if she floundered on my response, I made a demand of respect at that time.
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Nice job. Keep on defining your boundaries and demanding RESPECT from both parties and you should see a change in the dynamic. Like Sandi said this dynamic has been very immature and needs to change or it will just continue.
It could have been anything. I'm washing the counter wrong. I'm sweeping wrong. I'm watering the plants incorrectly. It doesn't matter
It does matter or you wouldn't be here would you?
Let's flip the scenario for the men. Your wife is going to wash and wax your newly restored candy apple red '65 Mustang convertible, V-8 289, 4 speed. She hoses the car off and as she's getting ready to sponge it off she drops the sponge in a a pile of gravel and sand and starts to wipe the car down. . After throughly "washing" the car she parks it in the sun and starts to apply the wax, she lets it get good and dry then decides to wipe it off a couple of hours later.
Do you see why to a woman bad help is worse than any help? It just creates more work for her. So if she has to refold the laundry, resweep the floor, rewash the counter did you really help her? Really sounds like AOS is her deal too, so it does matter. FWIW, I fold the towels in different way now. It didn't affect my manhood.
Cheers
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. After throughly "washing" the car she parks it in the sun and starts to apply the wax, she lets it get good and dry then decides to wipe it off a couple of hours later. 
