Excellent! I hadn't thought of it that way. I did tell him I would show the papers to my lawyer, but intended to more or less tell H my L was on vacation.
I will not sign anything without my lawyer seeing it first. I will not endanger anything that can be construed as marital assets.
H had a thrift savings plan in his name. I think I'll check that out and see if he withdrew it.
New Day! Weekends are a B!tch. Thanks all who drug me through that hellhole of a weekend.
Sometimes it takes hearing it from others for you to think rationally. I know I have all the cards on the table. HE knows I have all the cards on the table. Rambling and vague threats are all he is capable of. My only worry is dragging until the middle of November for the Health Ins.
Well, it was a nasty 4.5 day wallow, but I've just taken a shower and washed that man right out of my hair.
I'll expect the papers sometime this week. I will read them. Make a list of questions which I'm sure will enrage him, but he'll answer or we stop cold. If he answers, I take it to my lawyer. He has threatened to stop paying the household bills. I need to call the mtg. co., water bill and electric to let them know that if he lets a payment go late, to call me immediately.
Spent most of the weekend on these boards, posting and reading other people's sitch's. Do you think God has a special angel for LBS's? If not, I should send him a memo.
God already sent them Punkin. It's you and everyone else on these boards that cares enough to post their thoughts and ideas that make getting through this pit a little easier for all of us.:)
I often wonder as well. And I wonder why he allows this to happen with such small children in the middle. We're adults, we find a way to deal with the pain, it's hard on kids, especially when they have so many questions and concerns they don't quite know how to articulate.
Thank you for visiting my thread, you help me to calm down.
M:28 H:30 DD-9| DD-7| Baby- Due 11/10 T-14 | M-8
10/08- Bomb 4/09- Failed attempt at Marriage Fitness Program 3/10- WH moved out. 7/10- Informed me he's filing in Aug
Punkin...it is pretty normal to get into the self-doubt mode...here is a person we came to trust and depend on and then they are telling us it is "us" that is the problem and they are seeking a solution to finally be happy...I get that, we all do...
As for others...what it comes down to is this...if you have not walked in my shoes, you can not understand the path I am on...if you have walked in my shoes and took a different path, that was YOUR path, not mine...I have to live with my decisions so there for I will make them, right or wrong, I own them!
Finally, we are not nuts! The Bible gives a wonderful definition of LOVE: (if your not a bible reader, then skip this)
(1 Corinthians 13:4-8) 4 Love is long-suffering and kind. Love is not jealous, it does not brag, does not get puffed up, 5 does not behave indecently, does not look for its own interests, does not become provoked. It does not keep account of the injury. 6 It does not rejoice over unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth. 7 It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never fails. . .
In this scripture I found my greatest strength...I wasn't crazy, I had true love for my H at a time when he didn't love me or even himself...my love endured all things, it didn't fail! Even now this scripture is something I reflect on from time to time to make sure I keep my love genuine...I have true love...I think some that can just give up and walk away have not experienced this type of love...which makes their decisions different from mine...I believe people have different types of love...and we hear it from our WAS..."I love you but I am not IN love with you"...this is another kind of love. When my H returned, he had to work on loving me again...he wanted the type of love that would endure all things...romantic love is good...but it isn't always enough...we know that...and that is why I feel that most of all we need to work on true love as defined above...then we will be our strongest, no matter what!
Take care Punkin...
ps. Just because your D22 doesn't have insurance doesn't mean that she can't get her meds...there are resources that will help her...some drug companies will even pay for people who need the medication but can't afford it...something to consider because until she gets treatment and stays with it she will continue to have a rough time...that is no way to go through life at such a young age...or really at any age.
Imlin, That was absolutely right. Wish our spouses would have understood that the first time. I still think my W did understand that the first time but this mental illness has now taken over her mind. I really think she will rediscover it again. The scriptures say what they say for a reason and it also withstands the test of time.
God doesn't interfere with his gift to man of free will. The choices your H makes may not be the right ones, but they're his choices.
So true!
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
