When she came back in, it was nearly done, just some finishing touches needed to be done. She grabbed a spoon out of the drawer and went to stirring the food - kind of like completely taking over the task I was doing. It made me angry, and made me feel like she was belittling me right then and there because she was "better" at the task.
I asked her what she was doing. She said, "You always use the wrong spoon on this pot. The one you are using is way too hard and can scratch the pot. I tell you that every single time!"
What the F! I'm not a master cook here! I was doing my best! I made the whole meal there, while she jabbed on the phone, then she has the nerves to tell me I did it wrong? Angry!
So, I tell her, "You know, I don't like it when you come and take over a task like this from me. I was doing this myself, and then you came in and took it all over. That makes me feel like I can't contribute to this family, and it makes me feel belittled."
"Well if you wouldn't have used the wrong spoon then maybe I wouldn't have to do that," she said.
I wanted to knock the [censored] out of her right then and there. I swear. Lucky, I'm not a fighter. I told her, "Do not invalidate my feelings. I was trying to tell you how I felt."
She just gave me a laughable look at my words and continued on.
WAY too feminine on your part. NOT an attractive trait. You are reading too many books and thinking too much about YOUR feelings. Who cares about YOUR feelings? ONLY YOU. Your wife cares about HER feelings. Wise men realize and understand that. Stop talking about "your feelings." No matter how much you read on that it doesn't work on women the way you went about it...
You should have said..."you are RIGHT honey, I am sorry. I DO always use that spoon and I know it irritates you that I always forget that. I am sorry. I know you don't want the pots scratched. Good thing we have at least one good cook in the family.... (ALL SAID HAPPILY)
You would have felt better, she would have felt better AND she WAS right. Why would you want to use a spoon that scratches the pots AND then get mad at her when she brings it up...? Why do you constantly forget that? It makes her FEEL like she is the mom and you are the kid..... NOT GOOD FOR ROMANCE...
Stop being so sensitive. It is a feminine trait and turns women off when their man is too much on his feminine side.
